How to stop Being Miserable in Your job

Is He You?

Many people   spend most of their time working in a job as an employee.

If you spend most of your live doing one thing you better love it.

Otherwise you are wasting our life
And the bad news is that you have only one life.

But many people hate their job and they stick with it because they think they cannot do or deserve anything better; in a word: because of fear of change

(The most dangerous place to be: The Comfort Zone).

This is the fastest path to misery and this is why many people today are, well… miserable:

  • Poor
  • Sick
  • Sad
  • Mentally limited
  • Stressed
  • Small inside
  • Selfish

Yes…just because they don’t like their job?

Am I exaggerating?


If you spend 8-10 hours a day in a place, with  people and doing something  you hate what do you think is the effect on your body and brain?

Something negligible?

Open you eyes.

Understand that, NO, it’s not normal to have a miserable existance because everyone has it in a miserable job surrounded by miserable everything.

If you are not happy in your job I am not suggesting here to drop it and just run away (even thought I am sure you will be better off than in your present situation).

Deferring your happiness in the weekend or in the 3-4 weeks off a year is not living, it’s wasting your life.

And this is not an option for somebody like you who decided to be happy (as I hope you did if you are reading this blog).

You must love your job

What is important to understand here is the verb: must.

Hating your job => hating your life => you must change the game.

You don’t have any other options.

But I really hate my job“, “It is impossible to find a job I like” , ” A job it is only a way to bring money home!

….I know your comments…

“But I really hate my job”

In life we avoid what we hate in 95% of the cases.
We don’t eat that dish or buy that car we hate.
The decision is up to us.

So ask yourself why you picked that  job that you hate.

I doubt that somebody pointed a gun to your head and forced you to accept that job offer.

Very likely you studied decades to get the qualifications of that job.

Very likely you were very excited when you got that job offer.

Very likely you are the one who designed all this.

You built the cage that is trapping you now.

Ask if you hate your job  from the beginning or the initial enthusiasm faded away.
Ask yourself why it faded away and how to renew it.

What changed in your job? The job? You? Both?

Don’t leave any of these questions unanswered.

Changing job is perfectly normal, you indeed need to change it once in a while.

Hating it is not normal.

“It is impossible to find a job I like”

Sure, but…do you know what you like?

Even if this question sounds trivial (” Of course I know what I like!” ) it is not.
If you really know what you like (what you really like… 21 Minutes to Learn How to be Happy Doing What You Love) and you are not scared to attain it you will work toward that goal, consciously or unconsciously.
But if the fear prevails, you will be stuck in a job you don’t like.

You will discover that what you really like it’s not necessary laying on a beach or partying all day long but something more meaningful.
And you already know it, you laid down on that beach and partied long enough to get bored at some point…

Find what you like, let the fear go and take actions!

” A job is only a way to bring money home!”

Yes, a job is a way to bring money home and very likely you need that money.


1) If you  really need that job to bring money home you  need to do your best to like it !
2) Again, there are plenty of jobs you can like, You don’t need to be stuck in a 9-5 hell,

Even if you don’t want to change your job because you cannot find another one with a better salary now, this strategy doesn’t pay off.
In the long run if you are doing a job you really like the results will be better so the money.

I know it for sure, I followed the money twice in my career and it didn’t pay off, at all.

Focus and Commitment: go to Eleven!

Go to Eleven!

So, please go ahead with clear objectives; what it really matters is:

  1. Your job description
  2. Your boss
  3. Job Location
  4. Money

If you don’t like one of the four your job will become a hell, so your life.

Without clear objectives and passions you are just squandering your life.
Especially if you are young, follow the passion instead of the money.

As I mentioned, I once made the mistake to accept a job I didn’t like but with better salary than another one I liked more.
Believe me, I am still paying the consequences for such mistake.
Had I followed my passion very likely I would have had a faster career path and more satisfactions.

It’s all in the passions, in what we really like.

You will be never successful in a field or position you don’t like.
In your job always give 110%. Always, also if you don’t like it.
This is the only way to get advanced (why should you get a promotion or more money if you are just doing your job?).
This is the only way to be fair with your employer (yes it matters!), for your professionalism and dignity.

In every realms of your life always give 110%, adopt that as your lifestyle.
Always give an outstanding commitment in everything you do; no matter your job, exercising, loving your wife or getting things done.

This is a great habit to cultivate, all your life.

Go to eleven…for real!

Do you love your job? 3 Minutes Reading to Finally Discover it

This guy again…? I like it…!


Wait a second….why you are talking about Financial Independence …quitting my job…never!

Ok fair enough…I am, pretty sure you don’t love your job so much…or more precisely I think I am sure at 90%

Asking a simple question I can discover it…


The only question you need to answer to understand.

Would you stay in your current job if 20M$ just fall on your lap right now?

Think about it…deeply and honestly for 60 seconds…

Would you retire ? or keep doing the same job day in day out?

I personally love my job…with 20$M I might decide to do it for free (or almost) part-time and as freelance  (thus removing any kind of obligations).

Conversely if you would run away from your job only due to the money you are in trouble.

Working represents 60% (even more) of your waking time and 90% of your thinking time.

8 hours sleeping – 9 hours working – 1-2 hours getting ready and commuting to/from your job
What’s left? 5-6 hours where you will likely relax from the stress of your job?

It makes no sense.

Especially in these years where the opportunities of picking up a job that might excite you abundant thanks to internet or the globalization.

So what? Put the work on it…

You might be a digital nomad, move to another country to cover a position where your skills or knowledge of the market are needed (think about USA or European companies with branches in Asia for examples), be a blogger, going in the digital music, video industry and other tons of jobs.

The stereotype of 9-5 until 65 white collar in a office is not the mainstream anymore and less and less for the blue collar as well.
You can pick a job that you really love, more than ever.

But (and this is a huge BUT) you must put the work into it.

You must be obsessed by it.

You must think bigger than having as unique goals to buy a house and a car ten times more expensive than what you really need just to keep up with the Joneses.

Waking up in the morning ready to jump from the bed just to do it.

Otherwise winning those 20M$ is the only option and let me tell you that the chances are pretty slim.

So …You want to Retire…? From what? And… to do WHAT?

    Another Beach…?

and move to a Caribbean beach or in some countryside in Europe and maybe open your small bar, business that  (of course!) it will be very successful…bla bla bla….

Or…join the latest trend of movement of FIRE (Financial Independence. Retire Early)

SO… (did you notice how big was this so…?)

Why you didn’t retire yet?

You know…the kids, the mortgage, the family, the  <enter other excuses here>…”

Ok, let’s see why you didn’t do it yet and why you should change right now your approach on this for your mental sanity.

First and foremost…

you didn’t retire yet because you don’t really want it bad enough.

But…let’s take one additional crucial step…

Let’s go and find it….

You have to answer two questions first:

Do you want to retire from what…?

Let’s start with the first part

Retire from what?

Easy right? I am hearing you now from the screen…

You want to run away (sorry..retire)…from:

  • Your boring job
  • Your evil boss
  • A city you hate
  • Hours of commuting
  • Colleagues friendly like a bear
  • A cold and raining weather
  • Your answer

Ok, done…

Now the second part of the question…the most difficult

Retire to do what…?

I am hearing you less now….some weak and general statements like………

  • To golf more
  • To sleep more
  • To spend more time with my family
  • To relax
  • To read…write…
  • To play an instrument
  • Your answer

So…if the reasons above  are so strong to make you consider to quit your job and changing radically your life…why don’t you dedicate more time to them while you work…?

If playing golf is such a burning desire…why you are not more efficient with your time (e.g cutting internet/social media/TV time) to satisfy that burning desire?

Same for the rest…

If you are not spending time to do the things you think you like it’s only because there is not a burning desire behind them.

Instead you decided to waste your life watching a screen instead of living it

You just want to retire from something to…become lazy!

Wasting time in front a screen is your burning desire…

Let me repeat….

Wasting time in front a screen is your (only) burning desire…

Because you do it day in-day out for hours and hours and you are never bored doing that…

Indeed with the advent of the smart phones and tablets we are not bored anymore because we have anyhow always something to do…watching our phone!

Help me…!  What should I do  then?

Assess yourself
Shut down all the distractions and ask yourself what you really like
The goal here is to really understand your passion once you remove the screen time…(use phone app or other tools to track it)
You used to like golf, swimming, playing guitar, bla bla before the screens came in the picture… right?

Reignite again your passion
Start practice again what you use to love.
Set a schedule calendar for it and do it
Enroll in some tournament, competition, to set a measurable goal and a target.
It would be strange in the beginning but you will rediscover the desire…

Act on the big dream
Leaving in Europe opening a small business was your dream and 9-5 escape ?
Start planning it.
Plan a trip THIS YEAR, discover how to buy/rent a place over there…if that’s the place you really like…start thinking about the business.
You decided to invest your time reading this blog instead of watching TV or mindlessly browsing your phone…so you are committed to change, clever, energetic.
You can do it…no doubt about it…start now

That’s it.
Few points and actions.
We make it complicated but it’s not.
We just lost sight of what we are and what we love
Understand that the world out there wants every second of our attention to MONETIZE it…

Don’t fall in the trap, you are more clever than who wants to suck your money and life