and move to a Caribbean beach or in some countryside in Europe and maybe open your small bar, business that (of course!) it will be very successful…bla bla bla….
Or…join the latest trend of movement of FIRE (Financial Independence. Retire Early)
SO… (did you notice how big was this so…?)
Why you didn’t retire yet?
You know…the kids, the mortgage, the family, the <enter other excuses here>…”
Ok, let’s see why you didn’t do it yet and why you should change right now your approach on this for your mental sanity.
First and foremost…
you didn’t retire yet because you don’t really want it bad enough.
But…let’s take one additional crucial step…
Let’s go and find it….
You have to answer two questions first:
Do you want to retire from what…?
Let’s start with the first part
Retire from what?
Easy right? I am hearing you now from the screen…
You want to run away (sorry..retire)…from:
- Your boring job
- Your evil boss
- A city you hate
- Hours of commuting
- Colleagues friendly like a bear
- A cold and raining weather
- Your answer
Now the second part of the question…the most difficult
Retire to do what…?
I am hearing you less now….some weak and general statements like………
- To golf more
- To sleep more
- To spend more time with my family
- To relax
- To read…write…
- To play an instrument
- Your answer
So…if the reasons above are so strong to make you consider to quit your job and changing radically your life…why don’t you dedicate more time to them while you work…?
If playing golf is such a burning desire…why you are not more efficient with your time (e.g cutting internet/social media/TV time) to satisfy that burning desire?
Same for the rest…
If you are not spending time to do the things you think you like it’s only because there is not a burning desire behind them.
Instead you decided to waste your life watching a screen instead of living it
You just want to retire from something to…become lazy!
Wasting time in front a screen is your burning desire…
Let me repeat….
Wasting time in front a screen is your (only) burning desire…
Because you do it day in-day out for hours and hours and you are never bored doing that…
Indeed with the advent of the smart phones and tablets we are not bored anymore because we have anyhow always something to do…watching our phone!
Help me…! What should I do then?
Shut down all the distractions and ask yourself what you really like
The goal here is to really understand your passion once you remove the screen time…(use phone app or other tools to track it)
You used to like golf, swimming, playing guitar, bla bla before the screens came in the picture… right?
Reignite again your passion
Start practice again what you use to love.
Set a schedule calendar for it and do it
Enroll in some tournament, competition, to set a measurable goal and a target.
It would be strange in the beginning but you will rediscover the desire…
Act on the big dream
Leaving in Europe opening a small business was your dream and 9-5 escape ?
Start planning it.
Plan a trip THIS YEAR, discover how to buy/rent a place over there…if that’s the place you really like…start thinking about the business.
You decided to invest your time reading this blog instead of watching TV or mindlessly browsing your phone…so you are committed to change, clever, energetic.
You can do it…no doubt about it…start now
Few points and actions.
We make it complicated but it’s not.
We just lost sight of what we are and what we love
Understand that the world out there wants every second of our attention to MONETIZE it…
Don’t fall in the trap, you are more clever than who wants to suck your money and life