99% of the people I know have no idea what to do with their life
They live somehow…they hope to be rich without working on it, they hope to be healthy eating crap and not exercising, they hope to be happy and famous someday.
The someday never arrived and they die fat, poor and in solitude.
Do you want to end up like that?
Living without knowing our targets is like to ride a boat (our life) with nobody governing it…sooner or later will crash on the rocks…or best case will go nowhere…
Anyhow almost the totality of people live like that…
What about you?
Do you know what you want to do of your life?
I give you 20 second…
Is it difficult right?
I bet you just kept reading after 5 seconds just because you grew impatient…and you know why?
Because I asked you a question you want to avoid or that you consider useless because you think you are immortal, that a life made of browsing your cell phone, wasting time in the social networks and getting some charity from your boss is the BEST life you can get and this ephemeral happiness (BTW happiness. Are you sure?) will last forever…right?
Wrong & Wrong
If you don’t know what you want you cannot be happy.
And your life won’t last forever…
Don’t you agree?
Fair enough…close this browser now and go back to live other people live on the social or watching stupid videos on Youtube all day.
Let’ s move forward and quickly…you and me just have a couple of minutes to live less since you start reading this post…(never thought in this terms right…is it scary…isn’t it…?)
Why we avoid this question
Generally speaking we don’t want someone to ask us what we want to do with our lives (or what we like)
- We still don’t know what we are looking for
- We somehow know it but we live in a state of denial that we are not putting effort in reaching our goals
So we prefer to avoid the big question, we wake up, take the car, bus, train, maybe for several hours day in day out…doing a job that best case is exciting like eating paper, worst case is a freaking hell with the only goal of surviving or wasting money in useless expensive toys (smartphone, cars, vacations).
Don’t get me wrong
There is nothing outrageous with buying toys once in a while but the impact on your net worth must be negligible (less that 0.5%))
In a nutshell, before throwing that $50,000 in a new car you must have $10M as net worth…yes you understand me correctly…you must have at least 10M$ to allow your self that car that in the best case will give you only 10 minutes of joy when you drive it out from the dealer and years of pain (car loan, insurance, accidents, scratches, gas, cost of cleaning it, fear of parking it in a dangerous area, fears of somebody stealing it…etc.)
Same for jewelry, luxury watches etc.
You want to buy that $50,000 car? Or that $10,000 Rolex? Or spending $10,000 per year in Restaurant?
How long will take you to earn that money?
How much life you need to burn?
If you live in the USA and make $25-30K/y before tax and save 10% of your income (higher than national average!) it will take MORE THAN TWENTY YEARS TO BUT THAT FREAKING CAR and FIVE YEARS FOR THE WATCH!
Make yourself a favor… read now the great book Your Money or Your Life for some “wow” moments on this subject.
Some exception with clothes that indeed are staples objects but as staples you need to use those shoes or suit until erosion before throwing them away.
So what’s the point?
the point is that our society is build in order to make us avoiding questions such as “What do I want to do?” “What makes me really happy” because they to keep us in the rat race 9-5 (actually more and more 8am-10pm weekend and vacation included) in order to….(drum roll please) CONSUME
CONSUME: buying tons of cheap or expensive crap
CONSUME: spending $300-700 every month for cars we use just to being stuck in the traffic
CONSUME: spending $300-500 every month eating unhealthy food
CONSUME: spending thousands of dollars in medicine to cure our stress of work, sedentary life and unhealthy eating habits
Can’t you see that our society eliminated talking about death?
They are scared that if we think about that we all will start taking care more about ourselves, working less and, you can bet, consume less crap.
Think for a while the impact of two small things like biking or walking to your job and avoid eating outside (i.e. you bring your own food to work).
How much are you going to save and improve your health?
Well…I am already earing you guys…oh you cannot understand… it is impossible…my job is very far…., I have no time to make my own lunch, I promised my kids to go in that restaurant since a long time…
Sorry folks…those are pure and crystalline BS
But you are here reading this blog so you are different from that 9-5pm obese poor sheeps stuck in the traffic eating their double cheesburger and sweet soda 50K$ in debts.
Are you? I know you are…
Back to the questions and the solution
Do you know what you want to do of your life? What is your purpose in life?
Here we go…the 21 minutes that will change your life
- List all the things you love or you truly want…spend 19 minutes on it
- Review the list….2 minutes are enough…pick the one that YOU know is the one
Read it aloud, write it again hundreds of time everywhere, be sure you have it in front of your eyes all day long.
That’s the one thing you have to aim for with all your time and energy.
Forget about everything else.
That’s where your happiness is and now you know how to reach it.
There is a different version of this post called How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes written several years ago from an incredible man called Steve Pavlina. If you have to read only one post from Steve this is definitively the one.